Intimacy in the Family?

 Have you ever stopped to consider the effect that sexual relations can have on your family? If I'm going to be honest, that was one of the furthest things from my mind, but…. I feel like I have been enlightened on this subject recently. One of the first things to know is that even though this is a subject usually ignored or one that we generally turn a blind eye to there is a huge impact on the family because of sex. One of these is what happens to victims of rape, how men and women must work together in order to help each other despite their many differences and one way to help you stay faithful to your spouse.  

Victims of rape go through a lot of different things. They feel guilt, fear, despair, and so much more. It is never easy overcoming something like this especially since it hurts your Spirit. This is something many different people have agreed on. It doesn’t just affect you physically, but mentally and emotionally and spiritually. I am sure we all know someone who has been in this situation and seen the effects of it. I’m sure we have also seen many people who have overcome this trial and use their experiences to help others on their various stages of this path. One thing that is crucial for their recovery is to know that others still love them and that they aren’t broken. I heard a story of a young woman who was sexually abused when she was younger, and it affected her for years. She was preparing for a wedding and was terrified, but received council and found out she didn’t need to be afraid any more. We can be that voice of confidence and help for others. Oftentimes the greatest healing can come from being loved by someone who loves you for being you. Once that happens you have no need to be afraid anymore and can remember just how loved you really are.

Cooperation is a key in all aspects of marriage in order for it to be successful, but with intimate relations between a man and a women there is a great need for this type of communication. The patterns or habits for men and women are just opposite each other so, you need to become proficient in give and take. As you do this you are able to overcome any trial that may come your way. As you do this you can avoid all sorts of frustration and disappointment and become united together despite the crazy weather you experience here. 

In a marriage, who do you think the most important relationship is. I personally think it is your spouse. There are so many things you learn from each other and so much strength to be developed together. Despite all this there are some pretty serious consequences when including others in your marriage. One of those being that you might complain about your spouse to other people. WRONG!!!!!! Never ever discuss your relationships with others.  If you do this you end up driving a wedge between your spouse and that is so sad! Marriage is never easy, and there will almost always be a quarrel of some sort, but as you share that quarrel with others they barely look at your life and draw harsh conclusions which aren't accurate. They may never forgive your spouse even though you have long since forgotten thm. Also, do NOT have strong relationships with members of the opposite Gender. It can be detrimental to your marriage and may accidentally lead to an affair. Now, this doesn’t happen all the time but it definitely is a possibility. You spend so much time together one on one that it is almost like a date and you really start to notice the attributes you admire in the other, and then bang it happens. Now this isn’t always the case but often it is. These are all broad generalizations, but I feel like they are super accurate. Here’s to hoping you have a wonderful life, I’ll see you next week!