Well, this has been a wild ride! I hope you have been able to learn as much from my blogs as I have throughout this journey. It hasn't been easy but it has definitely been worth it. As I look back on everything that I have learned this semester I am completely astounded. There is so much knowledge and information out there that could really benefit your life. I have definitely seen this for myself as I have been able write on the things I have learned. This last topic I want to focus on for today is the topic of divorce and remarriage. This is also a very tricky marriage. It can sometimes be hard to identify what needs to happen but I feel like it is important to know some things that you might want to know in case this ever happens to your family later on. I'm not saying will as divorce is not something I would wish on my worst enemy, but it is always a possibility and being prepared is always the best course of action for any sort of disaster.
Did you know that 70 percent of the people that get a divorce, when surveyed 2 years later say that they should have tried to save their marriage. This is really sad to me. 2 years isn't very much time and if 70 percent of them regret their divorce than it kinda proves that marriage is worth the effort in some situations. Now this isn't always the case. In situations like abuse, whether mental or physical, or other life threatening situations it is better to escape. Also, 2 years after their divorce 70 percent of men are remarried, it is different for women. The really sad this with this is 62 percent of remarriages where there are kids involved fail. This is really sad, but it makes sense. Remarriage with kids is difficult because they are merging different lifestyles. The kids already know their original parents and sometimes have a prejudice of the new person joining their family because they don't want them to take the place of their father. It is also difficult to figure out the consequences and how to dole them out. If their are teenage children they don't want someone other than their actual dad to punish them and they get mad and react badly about it. The birth parents should be the ones to deal with the discipline. You should also accept that it will take at least 2 years to reach a sense of normalcy in the relationship because you are definitely trying to merge your lifestyles and it isn't easy.
The biggest cause of divorce is from selfishness. Often times people think that the leading cause of divorce is infidelity, but it really isn't. I think that sometimes infidelity is a thing because of selfishness. The people don't think that they are getting enough attention or whatever it may be. Since they have these feelings and don't like to feel that way they just decide to take whatever they want even though it hurts others. Divorce is hard and can make you feel worthless, but don't every let those thoughts stay in your mind. You are totally worth it and you deserve to be happy. You are not worth any less if your spouse decides to leave you and you can do many wonderful things in your life. I have definitely seen many people like this in my life. The have helped with so many things and been amazing examples to me of how I should live my life.
As I said earlier, this is my final blog. I really hope that you have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New year.
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